Gabrielle Hartley

Conflict Resolution Expert

Gabrielle is the author of The Secret to Getting Along (2023) and Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate. Through her 25 years of experience bringing people with polarized perspectives to agreement she will help your team and organization understand how to come together by using her easy to implement systems.

Gabrielle Hartley

Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., is a divorce attorney and mediator, and American Bar Association Mediation Committee Co-Chair. She is the author of The Secret to Getting Along: Three Steps to Life Changing Conflict Resolution (Sourcebooks, 2023) and Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate (Harper Wave, 2019), which received glowing reviews from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine among others.

Exclusively represented by BrightSight Speakers, Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online. She maintains a private mediation practice and is of counsel to a premier NYC/Westchester litigation firm. Prior, she served as clerk to NYS matrimonial court judge where she resolved hundreds of high conflict divorces.

She is a sought after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, U.S. News and World Report, has been interviewed on dozens of podcasts and is a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal.  She is a frequent presenter delivering keynotes and workshops.  Gabrielle serves on many committees within the ABA Dispute Resolution Section including serving as Vice Chair of Membership Marketing,  co-chair of the ABA Mediation Access to Justice Week 2020, and co-chair of the DR Just Resolutions Mediation Edition.  She is also on the Western MA Mediation and Collaborative Dispute Resolution Steering Committee. 

Speech topics

The Magic of Dancing with Conflict

Is your team mentally exhausted No matter the exact scenario, most of us are familiar with how easily conflict can escalate.

In her dynamic talk, Gabrielle will show you how managing conflict, even the most dramatic discord, is a dance.No matter how the conflict started, we each hold the power to choreograph a better, more functional middle and end of the dance.

She will show you how to use the magic of creating space so that solutions can unfold where conflict stood previously.Creating space allows everyone to see the big picture. The more we peel back the layers, the closer we get to achieving our end goal as a cohesive group.

Gabrielle shows your audience how to let everyone feel heard, so that we can get to the best path forward.

How to move beyond intractable conflict

Through storytelling and break out exercises Gabrielle will show you how you can get past and move beyond conflict, no matter how impossibly intractable it appears.  

All too often, we are vested in our positions, and stuck in having to be right.  By moving away from the WHAT we are asking for and leaning into WHY we need it, you can vastly improve  relationships and productivity at work and at home.

 By taking a step back and starting to understand the emotional story or the WHY of the argument is the most transformative tool to move beyond positional conflict.

Gabrielle is straight talking and animated in her delivery senseless argument loops and to work better together, even when you disagree.

Conflict Resolution 101: The 5 keys to disrupt the conflict cycle, improve communication and get to resolution

We are fighting more than ever, at home, at work and in life. Through her 25 years of experience bringing people with polarized perspectives to agreement she will help your team and organization understand how to come together by using her 5 step system: 


Gabrielle will help your organization and team implement a culture of improved communication.

The Secret to Getting Along: 3 Steps to Creating Better Teams

The secret to changing cultures for the better is defining the conflict.

There are many kinds of conflict from intrapersonal(inner conflict, when a person has to choose between diverging paths) and interpersonal(conflict with other people due to different goals, ideas, or styles)

Conflict isn’t ideal, but it’s not bad either. Conflict ends up getting us to better results. It helps to push us towards the conversations that our teams and organizations need to have.

It’s an opportunity to get better and improve ourelves and our teams.

The best part is learning to handle conflict is a skill that can be learned. 

Gabriellewill teach you her YES Method for creating better conflict resolution:

Books

The Secret to Getting Along: Three Steps to Life Changing Conflict Resolution 

It is possible to get along better, with 3 simple steps for conflict resolution!  

Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate

“Potent, accessible tools for your family and your future.”

—Gwyneth Paltrow

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