Gabrielle Hartley

Conflict Resolution Expert

Gabrielle is the author of The Secret to Getting Along (2023) and Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate. Through her 25 years of experience bringing people with polarized perspectives to agreement she will help your team and organization understand how to come together by using her easy to implement systems.

Gabrielle Hartley

Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., is a divorce attorney and mediator, and American Bar Association Mediation Committee Co-Chair. She is the author of The Secret to Getting Along: Three Steps to Life Changing Conflict Resolution (Sourcebooks, 2023) and Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate (Harper Wave, 2019), which received glowing reviews from Gwyneth Paltrow and People Magazine among others.

Exclusively represented by BrightSight Speakers, Gabrielle trains divorce professionals in the Better Apart Method Online. She maintains a private mediation practice and is of counsel to a premier NYC/Westchester litigation firm. Prior, she served as clerk to NYS matrimonial court judge where she resolved hundreds of high conflict divorces.

She is a sought after expert in the positive divorce space in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New York Post, U.S. News and World Report, has been interviewed on dozens of podcasts and is a regular guest on NBC Mass Appeal. She is a frequent presenter delivering keynotes and workshops. Gabrielle serves on many committees within the ABA Dispute Resolution Section including serving as Vice Chair of Membership Marketing, co-chair of the ABA Mediation Access to Justice Week 2020, and co-chair of the DR Just Resolutions Mediation Edition. She is also on the Western MA Mediation and Collaborative Dispute Resolution Steering Committee.

Speech topics

Conflict Resolution 101: The 5 keys to disrupt the conflict cycle, improve communication and get to resolution

We are fighting more than ever, at home, at work and in life. Through her 25 years of experience bringing people with polarized perspectives to agreement she will help your team and organization understand how to come together by using her 5 step system:


  • Clarify: What are we arguing about?

  • Listen: What’s really going on?

  • Optimize: How do we turn it around?

  • Strategize: How do we establish a hierarchy of what issues to handle?

  • Evolve: Making Concessions and Compromises

Gabrielle will help your organization and team implement a culture of improved communication.

The Secret to Getting Along: 3 Steps to Creating Better Teams

The secret to changing cultures for the better is defining the conflict.

There are many kinds of conflict from intrapersonal(inner conflict, when a person has to choose between diverging paths) and interpersonal(conflict with other people due to different goals, ideas, or styles)

Conflict isn’t ideal, but it’s not bad either. Conflict ends up getting us to better results. It helps to push us towards the conversations that our teams and organizations need to have.

It’s an opportunity to get better and improve ourelves and our teams.

The best part is learning to handle conflict is a skill that can be learned.

Gabriellewill teach you her YES Method for creating better conflict resolution:

  • Your Part In The Conflict - Understanding Your Contribution To The Conflict

  • Emotional Story - Understanding That it Might Not Be About You At All

  • Shelving Conversations - Understanding Which Battles To Fight & Which To Ignore

Books

The Secret to Getting Along: Three Steps to Life Changing Conflict Resolution

New book due 2023.

Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate

“Potent, accessible tools for your family and your future.”

—Gwyneth Paltrow

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